Are you in anchor mode? Do you recognize yourself in being an "anchor" ship? By definition and anchor is meant to make something or someone stay in one position by fastening him, her, or it firmly.
Many people that go through issues, tragedies, depression or lostness will anchor themselves to SOMETHING (Drug/Alcohol) OR SOMEONE. The weight of the world in that individual is transferred so another object or person to provide; comfort, support, stability OR increase co-dependency. Their mostly likely tired of drifting aimlessly ALONE. That type of heaviness is overwhelming for the "attachment" (person) that's connected... this is why they are called ANCHOR.
We have to learn how and why we are in these ANCHOR ships. The worst of an ANCHOR ship is when depression or mental illness is present. Imagine that ANCHOR "keeping" you, giving you what could be false happiness or relations of Joy .... then that ANCHOR is so tired of being weighed down because the true reality is; now that person the Anchor is stuck in the middle of their non-movement or non-progression along with the burden of being the happiness for someone else. THAT'S HEAVY!
Once the ANCHOR is at their limit, THEY RETREAT. Sometimes only coming around out of obligation. Now the other person has to deal with ALL the inner issues, battles and struggles ABANDONED (note:this is the reality that their mind recognizes; abandonment). Losing an ANCHOR could be fatal for many people.
Tips to set sail freely within...(Gotta start somewhere):
- You have to recognize when your not mentally happy OR struggling to cope....and SPEAK
- When Life happens recognize when you're attaching to something or someone
- Learn to love yourself more so that you're healthier to and with those around you
- Use my R.A.C.E Method.. Reflect, Acknowledge, Change and Execute
(You can't comfort what your hiding)
How Anchoring shows in other ways:
- Going from one relationship to another without time to process, heal, and provide love to self.
- Codependent friendships even with family members
- Leaning on others or substance to cope in an unhealthy way
- When your most happy being present or under SOMEONE
- When your crossing boundaries in friendships (Over burdening) without personal changes.
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